A colleague of mine, a clinical therapist, shares the following story. A woman came to him in considerable distress. Her husband had recently died of a heart attack. His death had been sudden and at a most unfortunate time. They had been happily married for 30 years and, during all those years, had never had a major crisis in their relationship. On the day her husband died they had gotten into an argument about something very insignificant and it had escalated to where they began to hurl some mean and cutting words at each other. At one point, her husband, agitated and angry, stomped out of the room. He told her he was going shopping, then died of a heart attack before he got to the car.